Our Program

Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path. Those who do not recover are people who cannot or will not give themselves to this simple program of rigorous honesty.

Remember that we deal with sexual addiction -- cunning, baffling, powerful! Without help, it is too much for us. But there is a Higher Power, one who can help if you turn your problems over to His care.

Our stories disclose in a general way what we used to be like, what happened, and what we are like now.

If you have decided you want what we have and are willing to go to any length to get it -- then you are ready to take certain steps. At some of these we balked. We thought we could find an easier, softer way. But we could not. Half measures availed us nothing.

—Adapted from the book Alcoholics Anonymous pp 58-60

Here are the steps we took which are suggested as a program of recovery:

  1. We admitted we were powerless over addictive sexual behavior - that our lives had become unmanageable.
  2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
  3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God.
  4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
  5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
  6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
  7. Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings.
  8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.
  9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
  10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.
  11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God's will for us and the power to carry that out.
  12. Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others and to practice these principles in our lives.

How We Got Started

Many of us started our recovery in SAA by attending a meeting. There we learned that we are not alone, there is help and we can enjoy freedom from our addiction. Visit our Meetings page for more information about attending an online meeting.

If we attended a Face to Face (F2F) meeting we may have received a welcome kit containing helpful information about recovery and some of our basic recovery tools.

We quickly learned that there were times we needed help outside of the meetings. We had questions or needed some help in moments of temptation. We learned about sponsors decided to give it a try. A sponsor is another recovering addict who has completed a number of the 12-Steps and has some degree of sobriety from acting out. They have a solid footing in their recovery and have decided to serve as sponsors as part of their 12th Step.

Some of us found it quite difficult to find a sponsor. In some cases it took some time. During this time we continued attending meetings and seeking help from other group members when needed. We found it helpful to listen to others share in meetings and identify those we felt we related to well. During open chat times we would talk to them about sponsorship. We often started by explaining that we were looking for a sponsor. We would ask if they sponsored and if they knew anyone else we should talk to.

Occasionally, a sponsorship relationship doesn't work out. When this occurred we began looking for a new sponsor. We have learned that this occurs for a number of reasons and is not a cause for concern or embarrassment.

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